Tyler and I have been asked to help with spreading the word about Proposition Eight on the internet. I’ll be completely honest here, when we were first asked to to survey people door-to-door I was terrified. My greatest fear was realized when a lesbian woman yelled, swore, and told us OUR marriage would never last, all while holding my child in my arms on her doorstep. It was a horrible experience, but at the same time it quickly taught me how emotional this issue would be. Although we are working on spreading information on the internet now, and are not face to face with people, the insults can be just as harsh. I have read so many comments from people that are continually calling me a bigot, intolerant, and hateful for the view point I represent. Quite frankly, I’m sick of it. Tyler and I had a conversation yesterday about this and he said, “They aren’t even using the word bigot correctly.” Just for your information dictionary.com defines a bigot as: “A person who is utterly intolerant of any differing creed, belief, or opinion.” In all the articles I have read, every single one of them, no one is blasting gay individuals. They are simply trying to defend what they view as the correct definition of marriage. This proposition is about marriage, and what it’s definition should be. I can now say, after all my reading on the subject, that in order for our society to thrive the definition of marriage must remain as that between a man and a women. The main reason I feel this way is because the rights I will lose if this proposition does not pass. According to what has happened in other states, some of the following rights I desire to have, or desire others to have, will be lost:
1. Our children will be taught in school that same-sex marriage is the same as traditional marriage. Following Massachusetts ’ legalization of same-sex marriage, a federal district judge in Boston ruled last year that schools can teach homosexuality as early as kindergarten without parents’ consent or choice to opt out (http://www.ca1.uscourts.gov/cgi-bin/getopn.pl?OPINION=07-1528.01A).
2. Religious adoption agencies will be challenged by government agencies to give up their long-held right to place children only in homes with both a mother and a father. Following the legalization of same-sex marriage in Massachusetts , Catholic Charities recently stopped its services altogether in that state rather than be compelled by the courts to go against its religious beliefs. Think of the effect this will have on the unadopted children who would have found a family if Catholic Charities were still providing services there.
3. Physicians will be required to perform elective procedures in situations that go against their religious beliefs. On August 18, 2008 the California Supreme Court ruled in favor of a San Diego lesbian woman who sued her doctor for refusing to perform an artificial insemination. It is detrimental (to society and even to the patient) to force healthcare providers to choose between their conscience and their profession.
4. Ministers who teach that marriage is between a man and a woman may be sued for hate speech and risk government fines. Alphonse de Valk, a Catholic Priest in Canada, is currently being investigated by the Canadian Human Rights Commission (http://www.catholicexchange.com/2008/06/04/112780/), and Stephen Boisson, an evangelical pastor, was fined $5,000 (http://www.catholicexchange.com/2008/06/09/112825/) for expressing their religious views in a country where same-sex marriage has been legalized.
I do not want these rights lost for me, or other indiviudals, and that is why I will be voting YES to Proposition Eight in Novemeber. If you don’t agree with me, that’s fine, but please don’t call me intolerant or a bigot, because I’m not, I’m simply standing up for a definition of marriage that I believe to be true, and trying to protect rights that are important to me.
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